Essentially, therapy offers us three important things.
First, therapy reduces our suffering. When we let go of old pain and emotional burdens, we have less need for unhealthy coping and experience less emptiness, despair, anger, inferiority, fear or sadness. Therapy is not a recipe for a pain-free life, but it does give us a stronger inner base.
Second, therapy makes us more free, happier and vital. We feel better about ourselves, connect more easily with others, and treat others with more compassion. We also become more resilient and less likely to get upset by setbacks. Plus, once we’ve anchored validation, safety, and appreciation within ourselves, we don’t have to look for them so frantically in the outside world. That makes us more authentic and relatable.
Third, therapy opens up a path to profound change. Trauma traps us and saps our energy, but healing trauma frees up space and energy for new growth. Our clients find it’s suddenly within their grasp to take their relationships, family and career to a higher level, for example with more intimacy and deepened communication. Liberated from old pain, we come into contact with new needs, emotions, qualities and desires, which give direction to our life.
All in all, therapy provides us with a new existential blueprint, a firmer inner foundation for the rest of our lives. On that, we can build richer and stronger relationships, with ourselves and our loved ones.
Therapy for parents – whether still together or already divorced – is a precious gift for their children. It allows children to grow up in a more harmonious home, where love flows more freely and they can develop more fully, instead of copying the painful patterns of previous generations or getting stuck in a loyalty conflict between their parents.