Introduction

Are you looking for new inspiration, experiences and tools for your personal development? Our workshops cover topics like letting go, anger, fear and burn-out that can help you live more fully. Each workshop is designed to offer

– insight: we share our knowledge and experience as (relationship) therapists. What are the main things you need to know about the topic? How does it influence your life? Which rules – covert and overt – apply? More insight gives you more power and inner freedom.

– Impact: you experience the topic in your body and gain a felt understanding of it. This adds depth and makes it more tangible.

– Development: we look at (un)conscious patterns of thinking, feeling and behaviour. We also explore what you need to develop inside of yourself before you can break through these patterns.

– Action: we encourage you to develop healthy alternatives. What does that look and feel like? What, specifically, can you do differently in your life, work and relationships?

Letting go

Life shapes us and we shape life. The experiences we gain along the way stay with us. Which is a blessing when they make us flourish, but less so when they imprison us. Especially if we are weighed down by emotions that no longer serve us, and experiences and beliefs keep us stuck.

When we let go, we free ourselves and create new space within ourselves. But how do you let go of something or someone, when they are dear to you or when they hurt you? When our sadness and anger overwhelm us, or we fear that letting go means losing the connection to something important.

Also, many people say that “time heals all wounds” or that we should “just move on”. But it’s not that simple. Letting go, mourning a loss, is something we do, on the inside. It’s not easy, it takes work, but it is possible.

In this workshop we explore what it means to hold on and let go. Why do we (really) hold on? When does that serve us and when does it hinder us? And what does it take to let go in a healthy way – honouring what was good, being realistic about what wasn’t – and creating space for something new in our lives?

Booking

A workshop is three hours long and is led by Ilja and Fleur together. The maximum number of participants is 12. Your investment is €65 (including VAT, coffee and tea).

Location: The Bernulphus Chapel, Oosterbeek

The Bernulphus Chapel in Oosterbeek is a beautiful and intimate place. Our hostess Roelinde has lived next to the chapel since 1991 and has decorated it artistically with her own sculptures.

The Chapel is located in a leafy part of town, from where you can have walks and cultural-historical explorations. There is a private, sheltered terrace.

The Chapel uses Fair Trade and organic products as much as possible. Coffee, tea and chocolate are Fair Trade and purchased regionally. Fresh ingredients are bought on the market and from local suppliers for the home-made soups.

The Chapel is within walking distance of Oosterbeek railway station or via bus 352 that connects Wageningen to Arnhem Central Station. There is plenty parking in the area. For more information, visit the Chapel’s website.

Anger

Partners who get annoyed for no reason or say there is “nothing” wrong when clearly they are upset. Colleagues who agree to do something but then ‘forget’ because they actually didn’t want to do it in the first place. A boss who explodes in rage at the drop of a hat.

Anger – which is what we are talking about – is one of our core emotions. It is unavoidable at home and at work and depending on how we deal with anger, it can be a great source of vitality, connection and protection or something that can hurt us or damage our relationships.

How do you receive other people’s anger? Is it ok for you to feel anger, or do you think it’s impolite or scary? Does your anger control you and do you regret what you say or do out of anger?

This workshop tackles these and other questions. Participants explore the various functions of anger, look at what triggers their own and find ways to express their anger more safely, so it can become a transformative part of our life.

Booking

A workshop is three hours long and is led by Ilja and Fleur together. The maximum number of participants is 12. Your investment is €65 (including VAT, coffee and tea).

Location: De Roos, Amsterdam

In Amsterdam we like to work in De Roos, a thriving center for personal development and spirituality. It is located in a beautiful 19th-century villa on the Vondelpark and, in addition to a wide range of workshops, has a tea house, shop and a meditation room. Our workshop is held in the Philosopher’s Room.

De Roos is located at the P.C. Hooftstraat 183, 1071 BW in Amsterdam. More information can be found on the website of De Roos.

Fear

A knot in your stomach. A clenched throat. Cold hands and a dry mouth. In other words: fear. Of something or somebody, real or imagined. actively present or silently dictating things in the background.

Fear can protect us. It keep us alert so we can avoid getting hurt. But it can also be rooted in limiting beliefs about ourselves or hurtful experiences from the past. In which case fear controls us and drains us.

Fear has the power to paralyse us or get us stuck analysing all the ways in which something can go wrong. And then we don’t get around to living our life, to exploring new avenues at work or new relationships. Then, fear leads to regret, guilt, and wasted chances. Especially when it makes you ignore your calling in life or find the love you deserve.

In this workshop we explore the difference between fear that is helpful and fear that is unhelpful . We look at our fears, try to figure out what they are really all about and how we can tap into sources of confidence and courage.

Booking

A workshop is three hours long and is led by Ilja and Fleur together. The maximum number of participants is 12. Your investment is €65 (including VAT, coffee and tea).

Location: The Bernulphus Chapel, Oosterbeek

The Bernulphus Chapel in Oosterbeek is a beautiful and intimate place. Our hostess Roelinde has lived next to the chapel since 1991 and has decorated it artistically with her own sculptures.

The Chapel is located in a leafy part of town, from where you can have walks and cultural-historical explorations. There is a private, sheltered terrace.

The Chapel uses Fair Trade and organic products as much as possible. Coffee, tea and chocolate are Fair Trade and purchased regionally. Fresh ingredients are bought on the market and from local suppliers for the home-made soups.

The Chapel is within walking distance of Oosterbeek railway station or via bus 352 that connects Wageningen to Arnhem Central Station. There is plenty parking in the area. For more information, visit the Chapel’s website.

Burn-out

Everybody is busy. Full agendas, high expectations, ambitious targets and the need to take care of others. Many of us also feel the weight of social media, friends and family, as well the pressure to be fit, happy, beautiful and successful.

No wonder many of us buckle under the pressure and end up having a burn-out. Or, maybe even worse, not actually have a burn-out, but just be exhausted all the time.

In this workshop we look at the mental and emotional side of burn-out. How does it impact us? What is the path to recovery? And what can we do to avoid it?

Perhaps it’s too much pressure on us to figure this out in just three hours. Nevertheless, we will explore the many sides of burn-out, hoping you will learn practical ways in which you can do things differently.

Booking

A workshop is three hours long and is led by Ilja and Fleur together. The maximum number of participants is 12. Your investment is €65 (including VAT, coffee and tea).

Location: De Roos, Amsterdam

In Amsterdam we like to work in De Roos, a thriving center for personal development and spirituality. It is located in a beautiful 19th-century villa on the Vondelpark and, in addition to a wide range of workshops, has a tea house, shop and a meditation room. Our workshop is held in the Philosopher’s Room.

De Roos is located at the P.C. Hooftstraat 183, 1071 BW in Amsterdam. More information can be found on the website of De Roos.